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Understanding Emotional & Psychological Manipulation, Bullying, Gas Lighting in All Relationships

If you have been in or are currently in a relationship dynamic where you are experiencing emotional or psychological manipulation, bullying or gas lighting you probably don’t know what exactly is going on and why.

In this episode I want to explore with you how ‘knowing’ can be half the battle.

Because once we have a clearer picture of where this is coming from at the root cause and why, we can then decide how to address it and how best to respond or work with a situation or relationship dynamic.

We Will Explore

First Step: Know what it isThe Major General Types or Reasons:

  • Dominance

  • Righteousness

  • Negative Emotion

  • Lack of Understanding

  • Abuse / Trauma Patterns

  • Need for Drama / Highly Neurotic

SECOND STEP: Know HOW to Resolve It

Diving into scenario’s of each ‘Major General Type’ and how to work with them

Stella Takeaway:

“We do not yet live in a perfectly just and fair world. We cannot control all circumstance. What we can learn to control is ourselves; from psyche and mindset, to emotions, personality responses not reactions and, our entire behaviour, learning or seeking help with healing our own wounds and breaking our own patterns, habits or addictions, refining ourselves and equipping ourselves as warriors of light to ever do and be better. For the better we know and understand ourselves and each other the better we can navigate all. “

I trust today has shed some light upon your way and I wish you well as you navigate your unique journey.

If I can ask you one small thing today – please if you are yet to do rate, review and subscribe so others can easier find and join us here at the ‘Sacred Guidance with StellaMuse’ podcast. 

And if you are seeking an Integrative Therapy approach to better understand or work through any challenge, change, crisis or curiosity for yourself or with your partner please reach out to me at elise@stellamuse.com to explore how I can best serve you.

With Love, Elise | StellaMuse

Rating 5.0

Rating 5.0

Understanding Emotional & Psychological Manipulation, Bullying, Gas Lighting in All Relationships

If you have been in or are currently in a relationship dynamic where you are experiencing emotional or psychological manipulation, bullying or gas lighting you probably don’t know what exactly is going on and why.

In this episode I want to explore with you how ‘knowing’ can be half the battle.

Because once we have a clearer picture of where this is coming from at the root cause and why, we can then decide how to address it and how best to respond or work with a situation or relationship dynamic.

We Will Explore

First Step: Know what it isThe Major General Types or Reasons:

  • Dominance

  • Righteousness

  • Negative Emotion

  • Lack of Understanding

  • Abuse / Trauma Patterns

  • Need for Drama / Highly Neurotic

SECOND STEP: Know HOW to Resolve It

Diving into scenario’s of each ‘Major General Type’ and how to work with them

Stella Takeaway:

“We do not yet live in a perfectly just and fair world. We cannot control all circumstance. What we can learn to control is ourselves; from psyche and mindset, to emotions, personality responses not reactions and, our entire behaviour, learning or seeking help with healing our own wounds and breaking our own patterns, habits or addictions, refining ourselves and equipping ourselves as warriors of light to ever do and be better. For the better we know and understand ourselves and each other the better we can navigate all. “

I trust today has shed some light upon your way and I wish you well as you navigate your unique journey.

If I can ask you one small thing today – please if you are yet to do rate, review and subscribe so others can easier find and join us here at the ‘Sacred Guidance with StellaMuse’ podcast. 

And if you are seeking an Integrative Therapy approach to better understand or work through any challenge, change, crisis or curiosity for yourself or with your partner please reach out to me at elise@stellamuse.com to explore how I can best serve you.

With Love, Elise | StellaMuse

Rating 5.0

Understanding Emotional & Psychological Manipulation, Bullying, Gas Lighting in All Relationships

If you have been in or are currently in a relationship dynamic where you are experiencing emotional or psychological manipulation, bullying or gas lighting you probably don’t know what exactly is going on and why.

In this episode I want to explore with you how ‘knowing’ can be half the battle.

Because once we have a clearer picture of where this is coming from at the root cause and why, we can then decide how to address it and how best to respond or work with a situation or relationship dynamic.

We Will Explore

First Step: Know what it isThe Major General Types or Reasons:

  • Dominance

  • Righteousness

  • Negative Emotion

  • Lack of Understanding

  • Abuse / Trauma Patterns

  • Need for Drama / Highly Neurotic

SECOND STEP: Know HOW to Resolve It

Diving into scenario’s of each ‘Major General Type’ and how to work with them

Stella Takeaway:

“We do not yet live in a perfectly just and fair world. We cannot control all circumstance. What we can learn to control is ourselves; from psyche and mindset, to emotions, personality responses not reactions and, our entire behaviour, learning or seeking help with healing our own wounds and breaking our own patterns, habits or addictions, refining ourselves and equipping ourselves as warriors of light to ever do and be better. For the better we know and understand ourselves and each other the better we can navigate all. “

I trust today has shed some light upon your way and I wish you well as you navigate your unique journey.

If I can ask you one small thing today – please if you are yet to do rate, review and subscribe so others can easier find and join us here at the ‘Sacred Guidance with StellaMuse’ podcast. 

And if you are seeking an Integrative Therapy approach to better understand or work through any challenge, change, crisis or curiosity for yourself or with your partner please reach out to me at elise@stellamuse.com to explore how I can best serve you.

With Love, Elise | StellaMuse

Rating 5.0

Understanding Emotional & Psychological Manipulation, Bullying, Gas Lighting in All Relationships

If you have been in or are currently in a relationship dynamic where you are experiencing emotional or psychological manipulation, bullying or gas lighting you probably don’t know what exactly is going on and why.

In this episode I want to explore with you how ‘knowing’ can be half the battle.

Because once we have a clearer picture of where this is coming from at the root cause and why, we can then decide how to address it and how best to respond or work with a situation or relationship dynamic.

We Will Explore

First Step: Know what it isThe Major General Types or Reasons:

  • Dominance

  • Righteousness

  • Negative Emotion

  • Lack of Understanding

  • Abuse / Trauma Patterns

  • Need for Drama / Highly Neurotic

SECOND STEP: Know HOW to Resolve It

Diving into scenario’s of each ‘Major General Type’ and how to work with them

Stella Takeaway:

“We do not yet live in a perfectly just and fair world. We cannot control all circumstance. What we can learn to control is ourselves; from psyche and mindset, to emotions, personality responses not reactions and, our entire behaviour, learning or seeking help with healing our own wounds and breaking our own patterns, habits or addictions, refining ourselves and equipping ourselves as warriors of light to ever do and be better. For the better we know and understand ourselves and each other the better we can navigate all. “

I trust today has shed some light upon your way and I wish you well as you navigate your unique journey.

If I can ask you one small thing today – please if you are yet to do rate, review and subscribe so others can easier find and join us here at the ‘Sacred Guidance with StellaMuse’ podcast. 

And if you are seeking an Integrative Therapy approach to better understand or work through any challenge, change, crisis or curiosity for yourself or with your partner please reach out to me at elise@stellamuse.com to explore how I can best serve you.

With Love, Elise | StellaMuse

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Emotional Processing – Permanently Drop That Baggage!

Imagine living free of any and all emotional turmoil, pain, upset, anger, disappointment, jealousy, sadness and hurt from your childhood till now.

 It is possible.

Most people live in an internal prison of the mind and emotions. Non-stop all day every day. So reactive to the world and thus also so attached to the thoughts and feelings that arise that these thoughts and feelings not only FEEL real, they become who most of us think we are. I’m angry. I’m sad. I want this. I need that. You wake up it starts and it doesn’t stop until you go to bed and even then, it may wake you up in the night…

This is what many of us call “normal” and what most of us don’t realise is actually a self-created prison keeping us from living the life we are here to live.

How do we awaken from this? First, we realise our self in this story. Hello! I’ve been there too!

Alas, you can’t change that moment by going back and replaying it for the rest of your life BUT we can however use those moments as springboards to access the core emotions (pain / upset / regret / trauma whatever it may be for you) attached to that that which we have been carrying round AND then we get to work!

I call this practice ‘Emotional Processing’ think of it like learning how to permanently drop the emotional/mental baggage of your entire life so far and not collect any more moving forward. All by using the power of both eastern and western psychological practices in one artful process that you can use as a go-to whenever required.  

We Dive Into:

  • How you “trained for this!”

  • This IS an opportunity for growth

  • ‘Good Vibes’ only approach NOT the answer

  • Rising above the emotional/mental prison

  • Learning the Art of Emotional Processing: Basic 9 Step Approach

  • Sit & Relax

  • Breathe

  • Awareness & Acknowledgment

  • Accept the Experience

  • Direct Dialogue

  • Finding the Root Feeling

  • Feel

  • Witness

  • Transcending Emotions

  • Shift in Consciousness

  • Where to from here?

  • What happens when Emotions come up?

Stella Gem

“Once you can fully sit in that feeling space, in complete acceptance of “this is the feeling” you can then gently begin to shift your perspective this is the ‘reframing’ that Buddhist psychology talks of. This is the path to transcendence – and by that I mean transcendence of emotions controlling you, you are going ‘beyond them’ …”

Stella Takeaway

“This is all part of the Path of self-realisation and thus the Path to integrating your ‘lower nature’ as we call it in Esoteric Psychology (that being your personality, physical, emotional, mental vehicles as I’ve spoken of in other episodes) and lifting all of that to your ‘higher or divine nature’ (we can call that Soul) which we are All here to learn.” Enjoy

With Love, Elise | StellaMuse

22 min

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The Life Changing Art of Detachment

We are creatures of habit. Creatures of comfort. Who seek pleasure over pain, familiar over unfamiliar. We’ve been heavily programmed in modern times to seek the fast, cheap and easy route. Be that in diet, fitness and health regimes, to fixing our relationship problems in ‘only three steps’.

What if we instead turn within and seek to learn the art of detachment?

Detachment from thoughts, emotions and behaviours that limit us and keep us repeating the same cycles while our bodies age and weary. As a result, we may well reach the high point which the Ageless Eastern Wisdom, many faiths and philosophies speak of. A point ‘of lived wisdom’ we could call it.  A point where we cease to create suffering for ourselves and others.

Together, We Also Explore

  • Detachment – the great experiment

  • Modern Western psychology of detachment

  • The Ageless Eastern teachings of detachment

  • Beauty, Wisdom & Truth of philosophies & faiths;

  • Baha’i Faith of Persia

  • Buddhism (including Zen)

  • Christianity

  • Hinduism

  • Jainism

  • Kabbalah

  • Taoism

  • Letting go & the practice of Firm But Loving

  • Harmony, ‘de-taching’ & the Path of Least Resistance

  • The Art of Detachment & the Art of Letting Go

  • The Internal Battle – Soul V’s Personality

  • Questions and self-inquiry for meditation & contemplation

  • Your True Nature

Stella Excerpt

“Letting go has for too long been associated with endings, death, suffering and pain. When as we know, it is simply part of the cycle of all that is. Both The Art of Detachment and The Art of Letting Go are therefore simply part of this cycle too. It is in letting go of what no longer serves; in the toy of childhood. In the habitual reactions to a lovers’ doing or not doing what is desired. In the repeating of out dated habits; be that over eating, smoking, buying more stuff or aimlessly scrolling social media, that something dies, ends and, de-taches. Allowing something new to take its place. A tiny shift, a tiny change and thus a tiny turn upon the spiral of life moves us forward.”

Takeaway Gem

“…and if nothing else what if I asked you to ask yourself what are you most attached to right now? how can you better deal with that? What is one thing, aspect, person, that you can detach from be that mentally, emotionally, physically, all of the above, so that you are no longer hurt, impacted, affected?”


Your starting point today is simply to take one attachment that you have right now, that you know does not serve you. That is causing you hurt, pain or harm in some way and begin The Art of Detachment from it. As you come to sense, feel, know the liberation that it brings it will fuel you to continue to take the next attachment, and the next. Slowly peeling them back and casting them off and onto the fire. Making way for your freedom and the consequent freedom of others.


In Light & Love of the Soul, Elise | S*M

37 min

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Beyond the Control of the Personality: Awaits the Life You Long For

Your happiness, contentment or joy, your healing and spiritual growth does not and will not ever depend on anyone else. Despite your personality telling you otherwise. Join me for this episode as we navigate through the control of the personality to lead you to where the life you actually long for awaits. A life of lightness and true joy, goodness, truth and love.

What We Will Explore

  • How your personality is running & ruining your life

  • The eternal hunt for a quick fix

  • Using life to make you ‘happy’

  • Making the Promise to yourself

  • Shifting control from the personality

  • Aligning the key 5 aspects of Self

  • Why you are NOT your experiences

  • The clash of personalities in relationship

  • The power and beauty of Harmony

  • Why personalities want to win at all cost

  • Avoidance of your self & your emotions

  • Laws of the World and working with them

  • Truly ‘having it all’

  • Where do we start

  • The Pause & the Circuit Breakers

  • Allowing life to come up

  • Learning how to Be & not resist

  • Experiencing the Lightness of Being

  • Reaching your Always Place

Stella Takeaway

“All will unfold as it always has in the world, but you would have evolved so you can live closer in alignment with Truth, with the Path, with a harmonised way of being. Stop allowing the personality to create the disturbance in your world. Your battleground or your sun kissed beach is inside of you no matter what is happening around you.” 

Resources

⁠28 Day Deeper Intimacy & Conscious Love guidance course for couples⁠

⁠Emotional Processing


With Love, Elise | StellaMuse

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